Secrets of Happy Couples: Loving Yourself, Your Partner,
and Your Life

“If you wonder what it takes to be happy as a couple, this book is for you. Kim uses real life stories, survey data, and practical skills; all of which point to success. Olver is breaking exciting new ground.”

 

Gary Chapman, Ph.D.
author of The Five Love Languages

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You don't have to settle for mediocre in your relationship, you can achieve marvelous!

What Makes Happy Couples Happy?

Whether you're in love and want to make it better, or are alone and want to get it right next time, relationship expert Kim Olver reveals the hidden truths behind happiness and satisfaction.

Secrets of Happy Couples is different from other books of the same subject because it is based on one basic truth—that all great relationships begin and end with yourself. Any relationship is the sum of its parts: individuals. This book explores how you, as an individual, can make the difference and create a happy and fulfilling relationship with your partner.

No other book has surveyed couples. Olver also interviewed prominent relationship experts and included their ideas in the book. She discusses the Relationship Cycle, beginning in the Alone Stage, moving to the Getting Together Stage, on to the Compatibility Stage, to the Maintenance Stage, and then back to the Alone Stage. At least 50% of us will find ourselves alone again due to death, divorce or personal decision. Kim doesn’t shy away from that fact; instead she provides tips and strategies to successfully navigate the grief of a lost relationship.

Secrets of Happy Couples: Loving Yourself, Your Partner, and Your Life is filled with common sense that isn't common

You'll Discover:

  • Exclusive insights and suggestions gained by surveying happy couples
  • Practical advice from a range of experts synthesized into learnable lessons
  • Tips for identifying problems and what to do about them
  • A 3-step process you've never heard before for surviving affairs
  • The power of moving beyond "tolerating" differences to truly appreciating them
  • How to meet your partner's needs and your own at the same time

If you would like to learn from couples who already know how to create the relationship of their dreams, then this book is for you!

Winner of Three Awards!

2011 Living Now Book Award
2011 Independent Publisher Book Award
Pinnacle Book Achievement Award

What Are the Experts Saying About Secrets of Happy Couples?

“If you wonder what it takes to be happy as a couple, this book is for you. Kim uses real life stories, survey data, and practical skills; all of which point to success. Olver is breaking exciting new ground.”
Gary Chapman, Ph.D., author of The Five Love Languages

“Self-love is the secret ingredient to happy, thriving relationships. In the Secrets of Happy Couples, Kim Olver guides you to look beyond the roses and rings, and to establish a deep inner state of love as the foundation for a successful partnership” . Marci Shimoff, # 1 NY Times bestselling author, Happy for No Reason and Chicken Soup for the Soul

Secrets of Happy Couples provides a complete guide to relationships, starting before you are in one, taking you through the getting together, compatibility and maintenance stages while ending with how to manage the grief of a relationship ending, whether it be through death, divorce or a personal decision to separate. It's brilliant. Olver provides a road map for success at any stage.” Gina Mollicone-Long, International Best-Selling Author of Think or Sink

“If there ever was such a thing as a ‘relationship training manual’, this is it. This book is a 'must-read' for all single and coupled men and women everywhere who desire a deeply connected and joyous loving relationship. Not only does Olver present real research on what actually works in relationships from the 100 happy couples she surveyed, but she writes in a compassionate, clear and engaging style. Once you start reading this book, you won’t want to put it down!” Dr. Karen Kan - Author of Creating Your Fairytale Love Life: Harness the Law of Attraction to Manifest Your Dream Partner

“Kim Olver put together a great resource utilizing the expertise of some of the top relationship experts to help you attract and keep a healthy relationship. The most important element is that happy relationships start with you and she takes you through the process of discovering the key inside to transforming your relationship experience.” Debra Berndt, America's Love Expert & Author of Let Love In: Open Your Heart & Mind to Attract Your Ideal Partner

“Secrets of Happy Couples is rich with information for how to take responsibility for your own happiness and the happiness you derive from your relationship. The combination of Kim Olver's vast experience and the real life couples she interviewed gives the reader practical advice on relationship subjects you may not have considered before. The extra good news is that whether you are currently in a relationship or single, this book answers the hearts' questions in such a way that your current or next relationship will benefit!” Sarah Elizabeth Malinak, co-author of Getting Back to Love: When the Pushing and Pulling Threaten to Tear You Apart

“Secrets of Happy Couples has all we need to know about having successful intimate relationships. Simple, down to earth information will help any couple improve their lives. Kim possesses obvious deep insight into human nature that we can all benefit from. One could continue to find value in this book in all stages of life.”
Krisanna Jeffery, Author of The Great Sex For Life Toolkit

“It's true, what you focus your attention on grows. In Secrets of Happy Couples, Kim Olver does a superb job of helping you identify the most important things to focus on if you want to create and maintain a happy, healthy relationship. We especially enjoyed how she clearly organizes her practical advice into a step-by-step plan for success as a couple. She succeeds admirably at making sure you ask the important questions before and during the relationship, and even more importantly, helping you come up with authentic answers along the way.” Beth Banning and Neill Gibson, developers of The Art of Conscious Connection seminars and authors of the forthcoming book, The Power of WE!

Secrets of Happy Couples: Loving Yourself, Your Partner, and Your Life will provide you with the answer to how you too can be happy and satisfied in your relationship with your significant other.

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The Secret to a Happy and Satisfying Relationship

Kim OlverHi, I'm Kim Olver author of Secrets of Happy Couples: Loving Yourself, Your Partner and, Your Life.

I have always wanted to write a relationship book but I didn't just want to write about my ideas. I wanted to talk to couples who were really happy and satisfied in their relationship with each other. So I decided to recruit those couples who had been together at least ten years where both individuals indicated separately that they were happy and satisfied in their relationship. I set my goal at 100 couples and went about talking and interviewing couples. I expected to complete my research in about 6 months. I really knew this book had to be written when it took over two years of concentrated effort before I could even find 100 happy couples.

The divorce rate in this country is a little over 50% with many who stay together doing so out of a sense of obligation, guilt or an assessment that there is more to lose in leaving. There are not enough people that are happy and satisfied in their relationships with their significant others. There are too many people out there living with relationships that are less than satisfying.

It took me two years to confirm what I have always believed to be true in relationships:

All Great Relationships Begin and End with Yourself.

This book can help everyone improve their relationships because it focuses on what YOU can do as an individual to improve yourself, your love life and sex life. This books contains seven (7) different exercises and quizzes including a Need Compatibility quiz, Rules of Engagement exercise, Steps for Recovery exercise and many more.

Believe it or not YOU can make the difference all by yourself. This book is about change and acceptance, not changing your partner but changing your behaviors to make your relationship happier and more satisfying. So if you are the one unhappy with aspects of your relationship, don't wait. Start today. You hold the key to a happy and healthy relationship.

I like to use a modification to the serentity prayer, told to me by my friend, Ellen Gélinas

God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change,
Courage to change the one I can and the Wisdom to know that person is me.

One of the main reasons why so many people are unhappy in their relationship is that they look to their partner to make them happy. In order to be truly happy we have to realize that happiness comes from within. We have to take control of those situations that frustrate us by either changing the situation or changing our response to it. We must stop blaming our partners for our unhappiness and stop looking to them for the solutions to our problems.

Winner of Three Awards!

2011 Living Now Book Award
2011 Independent Publisher Book Award
Pinnacle Book Achievement Award

Here is a sample of what you can achieve in your relationship when you start practicing the principles of Secrets of Happy Couples:

      • Recognition and acceptance of the differences between you and your partner
      • Better communication between you and your partner
      • A better sex life and more intimacy
      • More trust and respect
      • Happiness and satisfaction in all your relationships...including the one with yourself

I believe that if everyone followed the principles of Secrets of Happy Couples we would all live happier and healthier lives. We would stop spending the majority of our time and energy trying to change the important people in our lives and accepting them. This book will give you the tools you need to start improving those important relationships in your life and accept them instead.

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Free Your Mind, Open Your Heart & 
                Transform Your Life!

Kim Olver

I wanted to say thank you for writing this book. I read the whole thing cover to cover over the weekend. I can honestly say it was an educational process and i have learned a lot. This has helped my relationship and me understand things that I didn't before. I just wanted to let you know that this book has changed my life in a very positive way and regardless of the outcome of my relationship this book has had a great impact on my life.  Thank you again for taking the time and the energy to write such a wonderful and educational book that had a really big impact on my life. “ — Alex Kuperman.

 

About Kim Olver

Kim is the award winning author of Secrets of Happy Couples, a licensed clinical professional counselor, life coach, founder of Coaching for Excellence LLC, and creator of the InsideOut Empowerment process. She spent two years compiling the research and survey data for Secrets of Happy Couples. For more than two decades she has helped clients get along better with the important people in their lives — including themselves — at home and at work.